Isn’t this all a bit self-indulgent? Well, yes and no. You won’t end poverty or bring about world peace by making space in your life for yourself. However unless you do create this space you won’t be able to make the contribution you’re capable of making.
Think about what we’re always told when we fly: put our own oxygen mask on before helping others. There’s a good reason, and it isn’t selfishness or self-indulgence. If you can’t breathe you won’t be able to help anyone else! It’s the same thing with life.
When I was at my lowest point at work, I started small. I enrolled on a basic photography course. Photography came to be a way of seeing the world, and a way of expressing myself especially when I didn’t want to interact directly with other people.
Having that creative outlet which contrasted so starkly with the dryness of law had a profound and seemingly disproportionate impact on me. It was the oxygen I needed at that time. I actually became more open and communicative generally, more generous with my time, more prepared to have a go at other things. Tapping into my creativity was a catalyst for me and set me on the path to a freer, happier, more meaningful life.
What you start with will be unique to you. It’s worth taking time to stand back and ask yourself what you want more of in your life. Perhaps you had a passion when you were younger but it faded out of your life because you couldn’t find time for it? What do you want?
Even if you do just want “me time” to begin with, I’m sure you’ll find you will have more to give to other people and other activities once you yourself are “oxygenated”, more positive and more relaxed. In fact you will become less self-focused as you gradually emerge from the box you’ve been trapped inside.
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